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The Collaborative Divorce Alliance (CDA) is not a law firm and we do not render Tax or Legal Advice. The Collaborative
Divorce Alliance is a multicompany Collaborative Alliance that fully embraces the concept of Collaborative Divorce.
Our Purpose Our purpose is to minimize the suffering brought about when parents decide to divorce and maximize the potential for each person to make positive life choices based on what they want for their children, their vision, and their desired lifestyle. | Our Mission Our team’s mission is to guide divorcing parents to make constructive choices that create more beneficial outcomes for everyone involved, and to ultimately find inner peace. |
Collaborative Divorce vs. Contested Divorce
A Collaborative Divorce is fundamentally different than a Contested Divorce. Mediation establishes the foundation of the Collaborative Divorce process and it is typically much less destructive than going to court. Divorce of course is never easy or pleasant and it can certainly present a wide array of complicated challenges. Every situation is different and so is each individual. That is why we meet our clients where they are. Each member of our team is a leader who can help guide you and your family as you navigate the process of transitioning from one chapter to the next.
Our Collaborative Divorce Model addresses the various aspects of the divorce process, which include: The Legal, The Financial, and The Emotional. Our approach to each aspect of the divorce process emphasizes coaching. The coaching aspect of our interactions with each of our clients is what allows us to help individuals at a much higher level.
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Members of our team address The Emotional and The Financial. The Financial includes Financial Advising, Home Financing, and Home Ownership. When it comes to The Legal, our model relies upon our List of Preferred Attorneys, all of whom have demonstrated a willingness to embrace mediation and collaborative divorce. We work with our trusted attorneys on a referral basis.
Download: Our Collaborative Divorce Model
It should be noted that some attorneys completely and utterly reject the idea of mediation because they feel they can get more for their clients by arguing on their behalf in court. But those attorneys tend to not concern themselves with the costs associated with that course of action, many of which are not even monetary. At the end of the day, the attorneys always make more money by going to court and there is often times a lot of collateral damage that comes along with a contested divorce. Therefore, the question must inevitably become:
"Is it worth it?"
The CDA is designed to save families: Time, Energy, Effort, and Money.
It is also designed to reduce: Stress, Anxiety, Aggravation, and Anger.
In certain circumstances, a contested divorce might be absolutely necessary, but there is something very important to remember. Angry individuals can choose to spend all of their time, energy, and financial resources arguing with one another, either directly or through their attorneys. Angry individuals can choose to spend all of their time, energy, and financial resources trying to punish one another, again, either directly or through their attorneys. But there is another way. These precious resources can be saved by coming to the table in the interest of a brighter future and also for the good of the children. Yes, there is hurt. Yes, there is pain. But ultimately, you get to choose your method of divorce. It's a choice.
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From an emotional perspective, divorce is one of the most painful, frustrating, and stressful situations anyone can go through. It is the end of a way of life. It is scary because individuals do not know what to expect in the future, and of course, it is natural to have a fear of the unknown. Furthermore, the long term consequences of divorce can be substantial. It all really depends on how individuals choose to approach the process. If divorcing spouses can be mature adults who have everyone’s best interest in mind, things can turn out relatively well. If, on the other hand, divorcing spouses choose to blame and shame each other, not only will they successfully manage to harm one another, but they will most likely end up doing irreparable damage to their children as well. Therefore, it becomes very important to ask some thought provoking questions.
Key Questions
Going through a divorce is an emotional process and at times it can certainly feel overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be that way. How each individual approaches the process can make all the difference in the world, and that is why we are here. We take a collaborative family approach that emphasizes the end goal, which is a happier and much more peaceful life for every member of the family. We believe it is paramount to always remain very mindful of the children and how the divorce will impact them.
Download: Questions of Divorce
Meet The Team
Financial Advisor * Founder of The Collaborative Divorce Alliance
Christopher M. Carrillo | Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP) NMLS #400473
Ann Langston |
Conscious Divorce Coach
Angie Monko | Real Estate Collaboration Specialist - Divorce (RCS-D)
Bethany DeMaggio |
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The Collaborative Divorce Alliance does not promote or advocate in favor of divorce. The Alliance works to support those individuals who have determined that
proceeding with the divorce process is appropriate for them. The Alliance supports individuals of divorce by helping them identify the best possible solutions
for moving forward with a primary focus on how to make positive choices that create beneficial outcomes for everyone involved, especially the children.
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Challenges We Help Our Clients Overcome
We support families as they navigate the divorce process and we work to create a more beneficial outcome for all.
When we work with our clients, we help them develop the skills needed to establish and maintain healthy relationships. This is vital to achieving the necessary level of cooperation that is required in order to effectively co-parent. Our process emphasizes what is in the best interest of the children, which involves aligning co-parenting goals and priorities. Learning to effectively listen, communicate, and cooperate with one another is vital to this process. Ultimately, we work to help our clients enhance their quality of life. The end goal is for each member of the family to find peace. This may take some time, but we will stay by your side every step of the way.
Challenges We Help Our Clients Overcome: The Financial
Christopher M. Carrillo Christopher is a Financial Advisor who understands that working with a financial - Vision - Restoring Order
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Bethany DeMaggio
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Challenges We Help Our Clients Overcome: The Emotional
Angie Monko
Conscious Divorce Coach
Angie guides divorcing individuals to make empowered choices and gain clarity about their future.
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Our Solutions
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Every member of our team has his or her own process, each of which contains an assortment of
programs, tools, resources, strategies, and solutions that give our clients hope for a brighter future.
Divorce impacts so many different aspects of life and having a guide by your side during challenging times can make all the difference in the world. Our Collaborative Alliance provides you with an entire team dedicated to helping your family navigate the process Legally, Financially, and Emotionally.
Our Solutions: The Financial
Christopher M. Carrillo
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Bethany DeMaggio
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Our Solutions: The Emotional
Angie Monko
Conscious Divorce Coach
Learning To Live As A Loving Self-Advocate
Angie guides her clients to become Loving Self-Advocates who stand confidently and faithfully in their beliefs and decisions. They develop skills while going through divorce or loss which allow them to:
- Get their own needs and desires met through adequate self-care by learning how to listen to their own body, mind, and heart while simultaneously considering the needs of their children.
- Take ownership of their choices, not blame others, and do this without harsh self-judgment or criticism for their past choices.
- Design their life and become role models “who walk their talk” and provide the nurturing and love that their children need in order to grow into whole, confident adults.
- Stop second guessing themselves and increase their feelings of self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth.
- Set solid boundaries around saying no.
- Confidently navigate the divorce process and ask for their fair share of custody and assets.
- Be in tune with what is going on within themselves so they can more compassionately respond to their children’s behaviors and needs and protect their mental and emotional health.
- Be the safe space for their children to communicate what they are thinking and feeling.
3 Secrets to Survive the Stress of Divorce: | Women’s Empowerment Through Divorce: |
The Heal Your Heart Online Retreat: | The Women’s Empowerment Through Divorce & Loss
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The Private Coaching Program
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Life Coaching Tools
- Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) A.K.A. Tapping:
Emotional Freedom Technique is an energy technique designed to calm the nervous system, calm the body, and prevent trauma from taking root for a lifetime of pain, sorrow, and suffering. Negative emotions result from a disruption in the body’s energy system. EFT gets one's energy flowing again so that he or she feels better. It rewires the neural pathways in the brain to create new more empowering beliefs. - Hypnosis:
Hypnosis bypasses the conscious critical EGO mind that causes paralysis of analysis. Hypnosis makes it possible to access the more vulnerable feelings and beliefs within the subconscious so that painful self-beliefs can be reprogrammed. This changes the lens through which one views the world. It is not so much WHAT happens to an individual, but how he or she VIEWS it, that determines one's quality of life. - Healing Codes:
Healing Codes are used to heal the memories, thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and actions caused by a traumatic divorce, loss, or life experience on a deep cellular level. Angie offers customized healing codes to provide permanent healing and relief to longstanding core limiting beliefs and trauma. - Energy Techniques:
The human body contains energy. Angie has studied and practiced Donna Eden Energy Techniques for 15+ years. By teaching clients a daily energy routine and providing them with specific energy tips and techniques, individuals can get to the root cause of WHY they feel the way they do, why they have the relationship patterns they have, and ultimately heal on an energetic level. (Physically, Mentally, Emotionally, and Spiritually)
Special Note
Coaching is in no way to be construed as or substituted for psychological counseling or any other type of therapy or medical advice. Angie will at all times exercise her
best professional judgment, efforts, skills, and care. Angie does not make any guarantees other than to deliver the purchased coaching services as described above.
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The Collaborative Divorce Alliance is a multicompany Collaborative Alliance. Each member firm of The Collaborative Divorce Alliance is compensated separately.
All member firms of The Collaborative Divorce Alliance, including C.M. Carrillo Financial Advising, are separate and unrelated to Prosperity Wealth Management, Inc.
The Collaborative Divorce Alliance is not a law firm and we do not render Tax or Legal Advice. No member firm of The Collaborative Divorce Alliance is a law firm and no member firm of The Collaborative Divorce Alliance renders Tax or Legal Advice.
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